I really hate THAT question. Ask me when I'm due. Ask me if it's a girl or a boy. Ask me what we plan to name him. But WHY ask if he is my first? You don't see me with another child in tow, so just leave it be--please!
I answer appropriately for the situation--if you are a stranger or someone I won't ever really get to know, then you get the lie. If not, then you get the truth and usually it isn't something you wanted to hear. Well that's too bad, isn't it?
Sorry. But I feel (a little) better now.
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Let it all out! I don't know why that's such an important question anyway. Does it make a difference what the answer is?
I know! There are so many things you might ask a pregnant woman.
Does anyone ever ask a woman or a man, who are approaching their wedding date, if it is their first marriage? I guess it doesn't really correlate, but still.
Yeah, I hate it too. This last pregnancy I started answering "this is my third." Interestingly, that sometimes got me out of explaining further, since apparently a bunch of people asking this are interested in telling you how much your life will change after you have a child. But a bunch persisted in asking how old the others were, and so I told them. Because you know what? I don't so much mind them asking questions as I mind them not being able to handle my answer. If you are going to ask a personal question, learn to be human whatever the answer is. Ok, so apparently I am still pissed about this too. Who knew?
I'm still not used to it and still don't know how to respond. Most of the time I just pause and then say, "I went through a lot to have him." Sometimes the person gets it. Other times well it goes over their head which saves me from having had divulged something so personal to someone insensitive.
Have been mia for a while now but wanted to jump on and see how you were going. Not too much longer now!
Hugs
xxx
I am SO with you on this one! The one thing I'm looking forward to, should we have another baby, is having the buffer of a toddler and not being asked that question.
When I feel angry at them asking I tell the truth. Watch them squirm. They did ask for it. Nasty, but I don't end up feeling bad this way. Yeah,
Izabela from Melbourne
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